1: Apart from tumblr, what do you like to do in your spare time?
2: Name a favorite of each: food, drink, color.
3: If you married rich and your spouse gave you $100,000 a week, what would you spend it on?
4: Name a favorite of each: book, movie, tv show.
5: If you were given the opportunity…
Men always say that as the defining compliment, don’t they? She’s a cool girl. Being the Cool Girl means I am a hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping, who plays video games, drinks cheap beer, loves threesomes and anal sex, and jams hot dogs and hamburgers into her mouth like she’s hosting the world’s biggest culinary gang bang while somehow maintaining a size 2, because Cool Girls are above all hot. Hot and understanding. Cool Girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want. Go ahead, shit on me, I don’t mind, I’m the Cool Girl.
Men actually think this girl exists. Maybe they’re fooled because so many women are willing to pretend to be this girl. For a long time Cool Girl offended me. I used to see men — friends, coworkers, strangers — giddy over these awful pretender women, and I’d want to sit these men down and calmly say: You are not dating a woman, you are dating a woman who has watched too many movies written by socially awkward men who’d like to believe that this kind of woman exists and might kiss them.
“Depression is humiliating. It turns intelligent, kind people into zombies who can’t wash a dish or change their socks. It affects the ability to think clearly, to feel anything, to ascribe value to your children, your lifelong passions, your relative good fortune. It scoops out your normal healthy ability to cope with bad days and bad news, and replaces it with an unrecognizable sludge that finds no pleasure, no delight, no point in anything outside of bed. You alienate your friends because you can’t comport yourself socially, you risk your job because you can’t concentrate, you live in moderate squalor because you have no energy to stand up, let alone take out the garbage. You become pathetic and you know it. And you have no capacity to stop the downward plunge. You have no perspective, no emotional reserves, no faith that it will get better. So you feel guilty and ashamed of your inability to deal with life like a regular human, which exacerbates the depression and the isolation. If you’ve never been depressed, thank your lucky stars and back off the folks who take a pill so they can make eye contact with the grocery store cashier. No one on earth would choose the nightmare of depression over an averagely turbulent normal life.
It’s not an incapacity to cope with day to day living in the modern world. It’s an incapacity to function. At all. If you and your loved ones have been spared, every blessing to you. If depression has taken root in you or your loved ones, every blessing to you, too. No one chooses it. No one deserves it. It runs in families, it ruins families. You cannot imagine what it takes to feign normalcy, to show up to work, to make a dentist appointment, to pay bills, to walk your dog, to return library books on time, to keep enough toilet paper on hand, when you are exerting most of your capacity on trying not to kill yourself. Depression is real. Just because you’ve never had it doesn’t make it imaginary. Compassion is also real. And a depressed person may cling desperately to it until they are out of the woods and they may remember your compassion for the rest of their lives as a force greater than their depression. Have a heart. Judge not lest ye be judged.”
this is such a good question. it should be really easy for me to answer and it’s not. this is partly because there are different genealogies for the concept of performativity. one is from speech act theory: in how to do things with words, j.l. austin famously asserts that…
After the guide to regular, personal thank-you notes in this entry, someone asked how business thank-you notes should be different. EXCELLENT QUESTION!
Obviously, the tone of a letter you write to someone who may or may not want to give you a job is different than the tone you use to write to…
Mulberry Street in Little Italy, New York, c1900.
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- PTSD and dissociation
- Anxiety disorders explained
- What anxious racing thoughts are like for me
- Using a thought diary
- Coping with triggers
- Comfort box
- Managing stress
- Meditation tips
- Glitter jar
- Grounding techniques / More grounding techniques / Even more grounding techniques
- Belly breathing
- Mood diary
- Help Guide - A site containing articles to help understand, help numbers, “tool kits”, and self help
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- Explanation of anxiety and self help tips
- Muscle Relaxation
- Social anxiety disorder self help tips.
- Exploring and coping with panic attacks
- How to handle panic attacks
- Mood Gym
- Mood chart
- Panic attack workbook
- Coping with flashbacks
- Calming GIF
- Coping rules
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- Job interviews and social anxiety
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“Darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that.”
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|A. If you could get away with one murder in your lifetime without any legal, social, or emotional repercussions, would you kill someone?||B. What is your first thought when you receive a message on Tumblr, are you excited for the idea of someone from potentially the other side of the world wanting to talk to you or fearful that someone will criticize you?||C. Have you ever looked down on someone because you thought your religious views were superior?||D. Would you rather know everything the universe has to offer but in exchange lose all emotions or remain the way you are now?||E. If you could live and be healthy without sleeping or eating/drinking, which would you cut out of your life?||F. If you could take on the exact body and form of anyone else on Earth, who would it be?||G. Would you rather burn or freeze to death?||H. If it meant it would solve all world hunger, war, disease and bigotry, would you spend the rest of eternity in Hell?||I. Was the first crush in your life something you had or something someone had on you?||J. Could you live without having sex ever (again) in exchange for eternal youth?||K. Have you ever watched a full length pornographic movie?||L. The Beatles or The Rolling Stones?||M. If you could have the ability to manipulate matter or energy, which would you choose?||N. What was the worst nightmare you ever had?||O. Would you rather spend one year with your one true love just to never see them again or the rest of your life with second best?||P. All the sequels/remakes/adaptations/rip-offs in movies nowadays, good or bad?||Q. Would you rather be dirt poor and emotionally fulfilled in life or be rich beyond imagination and emotionally dissatisfied for life?||R. Do you have any (secret) feelings of bigotry to any group of people?||S. Would you rather be the only person in the world that can read minds or have everyone else in the world be able to read minds except for your own?||T. If everyone in the world would automatically only know one language, which language would you choose?||U. If you were old enough and not in a situation where it would be inappropriate, would you sleep with one of your (past) school teachers/professors?||V. A world without religion, good, bad, neutral?||W. The men's rights movement, legitimate cause or laughable, and why?||X. You can eliminate one of your five senses to substantially strengthen the others, which one and would you do it?||Y. Do looks mean anything to you? Don't lie, could you fall in love with someone you thought was ugly?||Z. Can you understand the mindset and logic used by the opposite spiritual opinion? An atheist understanding the belief in a higher power and vice versa.|