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Trauma impels people both to withdraw from close relationships and to seek them desperately. The profound disruption in basic trust, the common feelings of shame, guilt, and inferiority, and the need to avoid reminders of the trauma that might be found in social life, all foster withdrawal from close relationships. But the terror of the traumatic event intensifies the need for protective attachments. The traumatized person therefore frequently alternates between isolation and anxious clinging to others. […] It results in the formation of intense, unstable relationships that fluctuate between extremes.

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Judith Herman in Trauma and Recovery (via psychologicalsnippets)

since i like my trauma aestheticized i usually read literary trauma theory, not clinical trauma theory. this, however. when i told couples therapist #2 that it was impossible to live talking about kids one minute and how we were going to break up the next her eyes lit up and she said “that’s real. that’s relationship trauma.” of course, this was the same therapist who asked me to compare my boyfriend to my exes, while he was sitting next to me. i refused, obviously. what kind of an asshole do you think i am? seriously.

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What an astonishing thing a book is. It’s a flat object made from a tree with flexible parts on which are imprinted lots of funny dark squiggles. But one glance at it and you’re inside the mind of another person, maybe somebody dead for thousands of years. Across the millennia, an author is speaking clearly and silently inside your head, directly to you. Writing is perhaps the greatest of human inventions, binding together people who never knew each other, citizens of distant epochs. Books break the shackles of time. A book is proof that humans are capable of working magic.

— Carl Sagan (via sugaryumyum)

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